Change. It’s all around us. Some of it is welcome, invited even, some of it is not.
What is your relationship with change? Do you welcome it or avoid it at all costs?
As I write this, we are currently in the midst of a global pandemic. What has that been like for you? For many of us, there is fear and uncertainty, panic and overwhelm. I’ve personally felt all of those things, along with a sense of our common humanity, and a wonderful opportunity, an invitation to take my life in a direction I’ve always wanted it to go. That has brought much excitement and joy, and more panic and overwhelm!
Change can be hard, even those changes that we invite into our lives, as we find ourselves in that transitional place between ‘not anymore’ and ‘not yet.’
In my own journey through many different changes, some welcome, others not so much, I’ve been inspired by the words from Carl Jung, who said:
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
What might that look like for you? For me, it has often meant acknowledging those moments when I’m scared and don’t know what to do and bringing a kind and gentle presence to that experience, caring for myself as I would a friend who was scared. At other times it has meant bringing that same kind and gentle presence to a behaviour that I feel bad about, rather than chastising myself for doing it again. Not hiding from the icy grip of fear, from the rising heat of shame, but seeing it, feeling it, softening to it.
In my experience being held in that kind and gentle presence, by yourself and/or by someone else, is key to successfully navigating the changes life inevitably brings.